tommosloueh

Those, uh, early recording sessions were like a strange contrast for me because I went through the whole The X-Factor and didn’t have a solo. And uh, that was tough for me because from going to school and liking to be center of attention and that it was a big different kind of lifestyle change in a way.

I don’t mean that in an arrogant way, y’know? It was just completely— different, which was hard to deal with and it was often sometimes when I’d stand there and wonder how much of the comments were relevant to me because my contribution to the band, in my opinion at that time, was so small.

So, y’know, obviously I was delighted to be in the band and it was an amazing opportunity but on The X-Factor, I did have a little bit of struggle. And that’s why when it came round to recording the album and uh, it’s only really been since probably Midnight Memories, that album, that I felt comfortable with my voice.

Uh, so it’s all just been a learning curve from there, really. But sometimes, on stage, I might feel, or have done in the past, but especially this time I feel much more confident. Y’know, it can be an intimidating thing especially at the start when it was so alien to all of us. But, it’s kind of good to learn and come out the other end.

I’m very, very happy now.

yourpersonalcheerleader
selfcareafterrape:

Image: A drawn woman in a blue shirt and red hair surrounded by a border that reads ‘You don’t seem traumatized. Myalgic encephalomyelitis. Why do you need therapy. You don’t look ill. You were raped? You look fine? Fibromyalgia. I get tired too’
and then with ‘Just because you can’t see my disability, or that I was raped’ above the picture and ‘does not mean I’m not Disabled or a Survivor’ written below.

selfcareafterrape:

Image: A drawn woman in a blue shirt and red hair surrounded by a border that reads ‘You don’t seem traumatized. Myalgic encephalomyelitis. Why do you need therapy. You don’t look ill. You were raped? You look fine? Fibromyalgia. I get tired too’

and then with ‘Just because you can’t see my disability, or that I was raped’ above the picture and ‘does not mean I’m not Disabled or a Survivor’ written below.

yourpersonalcheerleader
We have all heard the maxim “If you do not love yourself, you will be unable to love anyone else.” It sounds good. Yet more often than not we feel some degree of confusion when we hear this statement. The confusion arises because most people who think they are not lovable have this perception because at some point in their lives they were socialized to see themselves as unlovable by forces outside their control. We are not born knowing how to love anyone, either ourselves or somebody else. However, we are born able to respond to care. As we grow we can give and receive attention, affection, and joy. Whether we learn how to love ourselves and others will depend on the presence of a loving environment
Bell Hooks, All About Love (via abipolarblog)